Have you noticed that your husband or boyfriend is paying less and less time with you and more time with work or his hobbies? It’s perfectly fine to feel a little insecure when he starts focusing on other things, but that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you. Usually, when a guy starts switching his attention away from the relationship to things like work or hobbies it is because he feels secure in his relationship. Most guys have the “if it’s not broken, then don’t fix it” attitude.
Right now, he just feels that there is no issue that the relationship needs all of his attention. What you want to do is have a talk about ways that you can spend more time together or you can simply seek more of his attention out with subtle hints. The only thing is that you don’t want to sound demanding or clingy.
When it comes to talking to your man, you will want to avoid sounding demanding. If you push him and there is nothing wrong, to him, in the relationship, he will start to get defensive. Don’t sound like you don’t trust him, or that you don’t appreciate him. If it is work that is getting in the way of you two men take their jobs very seriously. In fact, a job, to a man, defines who he is.
If you begin to get all demanding he feel like you don’t appreciate all the work that he does, which he’ll say he does it for you. Most of the time, you will find that if the man is too evolved in work it is because he wants to better his position, better his life, and better the relationship too. However there are many ways that you can take control of the situation. When you do any of the following make sure that you think about how your boyfriend/husband will feel. You don’t any to alienate or seem demanding or clingy.
1) First, you may want to spice up the relationship in the bedroom. If you have noticed that you both seem to be bored in the bedroom, one of the partners will usually pull away from those types of situations. You can spice up the relationship by being more aggressive, take more of a part, and upping the romance and attraction in a relationship.
2) You may want to stop by the office just to say “Hi”. See him at the office every now and then when you can so that you can let him know that you still care. If you pop in the office and ask him out to lunch, he’ll love the fact that you have taken time out from your busy schedule to stop by.
3) Start dressing sexier. If you start wearing a pushup bra or show some cleavage, he’ll notice. If you dress in colors that he loves and start wearing more slinky, short dresses, he’ll definitely notice. This is one of the quickest ways to get his attention.
4) You will also start wanting to be less available. When you aren’t there for him when he needs you, he’s going to start paying more attention to you so he can bring you back into his life more. However, don’t be too unavailable because you may lose this game, however, if you begin to tease by making them wait to check your schedule for a date, he’ll get the picture.
5) Another way to get his attention is teasing plainly. If you go in for a kiss and then change your mind, if you flirt more, he’ll become more attracted to you and you’ll have his attention a lot more.
6) Not only should you dress sexier, but also you should walk and talk with confidence. When you are confident and seem so happy and flirtatious, you are more likely to catch his attention. If you walk around sort of mellow and not really, into the morning, he’ll not pick up on you, however, if you begin to walk around like you own the place, well his attention will be caught because he’ll notice the change and he’ll be attracted by it. Confidence is a turn on.
7) Not only should you spice up the bedroom with a new routine, but you will also want to work on your foreplay. You will want to think about when you were in high school, or maybe in the beginning of the relationship, and you were so passionate in your kissing and foreplay. If you can bring that back, he’ll start coming home early and he’ll bring to spend more time with you.
8) Start doing things just for him. Like cook dinner (or order take out and pretend that you cooked it) for him in a romantic setting. This will give you the full attention and then you can do something to keep the relationship interesting and moving forward.
9) What will really get his attention is if you backed off the whole baby or marriage conversation. Many of the times when a man plunges himself in work it’s to avoid such topics. Just one day not mention it. In fact, back off for a while on the subject. If he brings up, you guys are ready for that step, but men don’t like to be hassled by topics that women seem to focus on. He’ll notice the change and either appreciates it and come back to focusing on you or he’ll initiate a talk.
10) Bluntly, ask about the relationship. As soon as you say, “I think we should talk” in a mature and serious tone, guys know it’s about the relationship and they will participate in a talk. This will allow him to know how you feel about him spending so much time away from you and he’ll tell you why, and this will help you set all the insecurities aside so that the passion can be brought back to the relationship.
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Bipolar Disorder A Depressive Symptoms in Teens
Bipolar disorder is a mental illness that causes extreme mood swings. This condition is also called manic-depressive illness. It may be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Bipolar disorder is a brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in a person's mood, energy, and ability to function. Different from the normal ups and downs that everyone goes through, the symptoms of bipolar disorder are severe.
Psychotic features are often present during the manic phase of bipolar I disorder. Aspects of psychosis may also manifest during extreme episodes of depression. They are also present in schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorder.
Bipolar disorder typically develops in late adolescence or early adulthood. However, some people have their first symptoms during childhood, and some develop them late in life. It is often not recognized as an illness, and people may suffer for years before it is properly diagnosed and treated.
Bipolar disorder may be a frequent co-morbid condition among children who have experienced early chronic maltreatment, such as physical and sexual abuse or neglect. Bipolar teenagers can have dramatic mood changes within a single day and may have different symptoms than adults.
There is a strong genetic component to this disorder, and parents who severely maltreat their children are themselves likely to suffer from significant mental health issues, such as bipolar disorder.
Signs and symptoms of Bipolar Disorder:
Bipolar disorder causes dramatic mood swings—from overly "high" and irritable to sad and hopeless, and then back again, often with periods of normal mood in between. Severe changes in energy and behavior go along with these changes in mood.
• Increased energy, activity, and restlessness
• Persistent sad or irritable mood
• Loss of interest in activities once enjoyed
• Significant change in appetite or body weight
• Difficulty sleeping or oversleeping
• Physical agitation or slowing
• Loss of energy
• Feelings of worthlessness or inappropriate guilt
• Extreme irritability
• Poor judgment
• A lasting period of behavior that is different from usual
• Increased sexual drive
• Provocative, intrusive, or aggressive behavior
• Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide
Both children and adolescents can develop bipolar disorder. It is more likely to affect the children of parents who have the illness.
Unlike many adults with bipolar disorder, whose episodes tend to be more clearly defined, children and young adolescents with the illness often experience very fast mood swings between depression and mania many times within a day.
But there is good news: bipolar disorder can be treated, and people with this illness can lead full and productive lives. It's extremely important for parents to get a professional evaluation if they have any suspicion. The consequences for a lack of treatment can be great: suspensions from school, sexually transmitted diseases, depression and even suicide.
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RELIEVING STRESS TO PREVENT CANCER
From the office of Dr. Laurence Magne, author of www.cancer-free-for-life.com
It is now agreed that stress is not what happens, but how the person reacts to what happens. Stress in itself is neither good nor bad. It is a mechanism built into our organism, not for the purpose of making us sick, but to enable us to respond more effectively to challenges. The successful people who can handle stress effectively have designed techniques to manage the inevitable stressors in their life. You will note that the most truly successful people are not overburdened with stress. They actually perceive stress as an opportunity for learning and achievement. They also possess a disciplined self-awareness and the flexibility to handle excessive amounts of stress. Individual techniques which they qualified as tools for developing a consistently positive attitude toward life included:
Deep breathing,
Listening to music
Long walks on the beach
Traditional meditation
Yoga practices
Prayer
Biofeedback
Visualisation
The silent repetition of a meaningful word or mantra
Relying on stress management techniques alone to accomplish therapeutic goals is shortsighted. You must also take a good look at what drives your life. To learn more how you can stop cancer in your life, read Cancer Free For Life.
Finding a purpose in life: feeling that you have a role to fulfil in the universe which gives you an unwavering commitment to your values. The stress management techniques described above are only tools to reinforce your sense of purpose.
Victor Frankl: Man's search for meaning. ?Man finds identity to the extent to which he commits himself to something beyond himself, to a cause greater than himself.'
Research also shows that purpose is beneficial to psychological health, alleviating such conditions as depression and anxiety and physical health and contributing to recovery from heart attacks and cancer.
A majority of people with stress-related disorders are actually suffering from an inner feeling of unworthiness that generates an impressive array of coping strategies all aimed at self-perfection. The person you think you are is actually a committee of sub-personalities, each doing its best to keep you safe from situation that threatened you in the past. Most of us still harbour the emotional ghosts or ourselves as children, frightened and insecure. Healing our guilt involves putting these ghosts to rest by giving them the love they need to let go of their self-protective fear.
Unhealthy guilt is an autoimmune disease of the soul that causes us to literally reject our own worth as human beings. Unhealthy guilt causes life to become organized around the need to avoid fear rather than the desire to share love. Finding out who we are is the very process of life. As long as we are prisoners of guilt, we cannot discover who we are, we are too busy with people-pleasing, and our addiction to perfection, to really live each moment as it happens.
The question is not how we will die, but how we will live.
Our inner critic tells us that we never good enough, never worthy of our own love. In spite of all our achievements, peace and acceptance remain elusive, and we are guilty and stressed. We have forgotten who we really are. We are searching for our worthiness in all the wrong places. We forget that we access our real identity whenever the mind becomes quiet and we are fully present in the moment. But whenever our guard is down, yielding to the majesty of a sunset, the caress of a breeze, the silence of a heartfelt hug, we re-experience the inner current of joy and love that is always present
After all, what else can mobilize us to overcome the inertia of day-to-day life? It's the crisis and pain which are the universal awakeners. In facing our dark parts, the disowned parts of our being that we thought were unworthy of love, we learn to live whole, authentic lives. In the shadow, we find the power that allows us to live life with enthusiasm, excitement, and joy, the natural impulses lost from our childhood.
In becoming psychologically whole, we mend our souls and become spiritually whole. We discover loving-kindness and compassion, the ability to suffer with.
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